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My Feudal Lord Read & Download ó 100 ´ Toen Tehmina Durrani trouwde met Mustafa Khar sprak heel Pakistan van een sprookjeshuwelijk zij was mooi ontwikkeld en behoorde tot een van de meest invloedrijke families in Pakistan Hij was rijk knap en een zeer vooraanstaand politicus Maar privé bleek het veelgeroemde huwelijk een hel Mustafa Khar 'de LStseller In een sluier gevangen dit boek over de verschrikkingen van haar huwelijk Tranen van vernedering doet westerse lezers beseffen hoe kwetsbaar de positie van vrouwen is in een gesloten islamitische samenleving en hoe moeilijk het kan zijn zich te onttrekken aan de macht van een heerszuchtige moslim echtgenoot. I already knew before I began reading this book that I would have lots of very strong opinions about it That was because every time I brought it up everyone around me had not only heard of it they were all very opinionated about it too Even the people who hadn’t read it were aware of the particularly controversial bits about how both the author as well as her husband—the villain in this tale—had left their previous spouses to begin their married life or how Durrani whose narrative solely focuses on how marrying a feudal lord destroyed her life then went on to marry Shahbaz Sharif a man most people in Pakistan consider corrupt beyond beliefSo reading the book without having at least some pre conceived idea of what it was about was impossible But I tried to be as open as possible to my own reaction to the writing which ended up being an account of one of the most unstable unhealthy relationships I’ve ever read Tehmina Durani the teller of her life story sketches in uite a lot of detail about her tumultuous marriage to Mustafa Khar a Pakistani politician who is the epitome of every abusive husband ever I already knew he would be horrible but I had underestimated even by my own very generous standards how horrible he could possibly beMost of the beginning of this book feels like a Judith McNaught novel in that everyone is filthy rich and ridiculously good looking except for our ugly duckling heroine They all indulge in rich people activities and spend their time doing rich people things with a whole team of servants and guards streaming behind them A desire to copy the British lifestyle is evident in almost all of Tehmina Durrani’s family especially from the maternal side The author’s mother who plays a huge part in how Tehmina turns out was cold and distant and mostly responsible for inculcating really low self esteem in the children she deemed unworthy of her approval Mostly those were the kids with dark skin including our author who grow up in a household where fair skin – like the one her mother and her Pathan father have – are prized above all else Wanting her mother’s approval and love is a pretty constant theme within the narrative and Durrani unable to separate herself from the idea of the young child who constantly craved for any sign of affection from her strict mother seems to be aware of it Her first marriage to a man named Anees who woes her when she is sixteen with clandestine notes snuck in to her Convent school falls apart according to the author not only because she grows bored with Anees or because Anees is technically lower in social status as the author’s mother claims on her first rejection of the marriage proposal but because for Durrani her mother’s withheld love triumphs all It was during this time with Tehmina frustrated and bored of her first husband during which she met Mustafa Khar an upcoming politician who could have walked straight out of one of McNaught’s aforementioned novels in that all the clichés about heroes seem to have applied to him Looking at pictures of present day Khar makes it hard to understand how a younger version of him could have ever looking alluring or attractive but whatever it was for the young and unhappily married Tehmina who herself stated that by all accounts her husband was a nice enough man with whom she also had a baby whom she never managed to love And in contrast Mustafa Khar seemed powerful and noble and charisma personified I was haunted by feelings of being a non person and by extremely low self esteem If Mother did not approve of me and love me Anees’s weak opinion – and those of his lower positioned family – was of little conseuenceTehmina’s divorce her first and Khar’s plan to leave his heavily pregnant wife his fifth caused a shit storm because in Pakistan all divorces are treated as worse than the possibility that a man might be abusing his wife It is the ultimate dishonor and Tehmina’s parents treated it as such Especially her mother for whom the idea of what people would say was important than literally anything else There must have been some irony in the fact that the mother herself was divorced but how regularly do people forgive other people’s trespasses if they’ve suffered through something themselves Very rarely of course Despite the fact that our mother had divorced her first husband we were taught that marriage was a sacred and irrevocable institution If a husband turned out to be a brute it was the wife’s duty to persevere until she changed his character A broken marriage was a reflection of a woman’s failureIt was at this point that my opinions started to make themselves manifest Usually when I review a book I like to separate the book from the author the author is dead as Roland Barthes would say and my job is to comment on the text without the contextualization of the author’s actions Reviewing a biography however sort of makes that an impossibility because what you are commenting on is the author’s life itself One must also take into account the fact that any biography will feature a version of the events that puts its author forward in the best possible light One of the most intense conversations I had during the reading of this novel was in uestioning the veracity of the claims put forward by Durrani According to her her father was encouraged by Bhutto to secretly transfer state assets from East Pakistan to West before the 1971 separation Her father’s refusal led to his being thrown in jail once Bhutto came to powerIt’s entirely possible that all of this is true and since her father’s eventual imprisonment ended with a trial which exonerated him it’s also possible that historical documents can attest to this fact but narratives can be edited to a person’s benefit this also is true People can manipulate events to their benefit this also is true And no reader of history especially in the form of a biography should be naïve enough to assume that what they are reading is in fact what actually happened Which was why I read the whole thing with a grain of salt paying special attention not to the events that happened but also how they are presentedLooking at the book from this light the presentation of Mustafa Khar the antagonist of this narrative makes for a very interesting study Since the story is very overwhelmingly about a woman’s escape from her abusive marriage I had imagined the abuser would be painted with a very harsh brush But this book flips the switch by not even taking a diplomatic distant tone but rather coming across as —there really is no other way to put this—begrudgingly admiring It sounds like how a person horrified by someone’s cruelty and misogyny is simultaneously awed by them and how by indulging in their horrible behavior the person has managed to gain and retain power In multiple scenes the ghastly things that Khar did are presented as an example of his prowess or his thinking abilities rather than as a testament to his foul personality Exhibiting a native canniness Mustafa used the power of his office to re establish his financial position Over the years he had sold off much of his land holdings in order to finance his political aspirations But now those who had bought from him found themselves hauled in by the police on trumped up charges and coerced into returning his land Before long Mustafa had recouped almost all of his holdingsWhat’s also very funny is the juxtaposition between the Mustafa Khar who is corrupt and uses his power to oppress those below him and the Khar who gets the support of Zulfiar Bhutto primarily because he is ‘a man of the country’ someone who has grown up within the feudal system and understands the fights of the downtrodden This point is repeated again and again claiming that Bhutto was convinced they could change the country together but he was planning this with the same Khar who blew all the money his father gave him upon his election to the National Assembly on buying a cavalcade of ridiculously expensive American cars That doesn’t exactly sound like a man whose main interest is the people Sherry theorized that he suffered from an inferiority complex He resented women from our social background and made it his mission to subjugate them He disguised his class envy by assuming a feudal airThis connection between the Mustafa Khar that other people saw and the reality of who he was—a vicious and cruel person—seemed to be pervasive throughout both his political life as well as his personal No matter how many times Sherry Mustafa

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Toen Tehmina Durrani trouwde met Mustafa Khar sprak heel Pakistan van een sprookjeshuwelijk zij was mooi ontwikkeld en behoorde tot een van de meest invloedrijke families in Pakistan Hij was rijk knap en een zeer vooraanstaand politicus Maar privé bleek het veelgeroemde huwelijk een hel Mustafa Khar 'de Leeuw van P. The book lacks sincerity The author tries too hard to portray herself as totally naive and innocent preyed on by a tyrannical and cruel husband I refused to let go because of the kids she maintains Seeing that she left her first daughter to marry her feudal lord she doesn't come off as such a devoted and loving mother for me to buy that argument It does not come off as a wolf sheep combination at all for me to be entirely sympathetic to her ordeal The worst part was when her baby sister falls in the honey trap of her preying husband Instead of making attempts to rescue her from his clutches she looks at the child as a sort of rival a much younger inamorata who is trying to steal her husband Being a life story this book is bound to be judged not by its writing style or the author's literary skills but by the surmised virtues of the characters involved Try as hard as I might to do otherwise I have ended up rating the author and not the book 2 out of 5 stars for both

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My Feudal LordUnjab' was ziekelijk jaloers en beestachtig tiranniek Veertien jaar lang huilde Tehmina in stilte terwijl zij naar buiten toe de schone schijn bleef ophouden en meewerkte aan zijn politieke campagnesNa haar moeizaam bevochten scheiding schreef Tehmina Durrani samen met William Hoffer co auteur van Betty Mahoody's be. Last time when I went out shopping for novels I told my bestie as always😉 that I have been wanting to read this book for uite some time now She told me she had it and could lend it to me Coming back home and getting done with the daily chores I put my hands on this book and got myself to my comfortable spot along with a cup of tea And then before starting it I cleared my mind of all the reviews I had heard about the peoplecharacter in this book I wanted to make my own opinion of it Living on the same patch of earth as the protagonist Tehmina Durrani I had huge expectations from her regarding boldness maturity and courage I was not a bit shocked by the political manoeuvres or the illegal relationships or discriminating your own children based on their looks or even the treatment of women as sex tools The only thing that shook me to the core were the choices our protagonist makes under pressure It seems like she has no sense of direction about her own life There's always a right and wrong way of doing a thing A weakness of your own character and lack of courage is something you can never blame on others or your circumstances Well I believe that there is always a loophole if you try to make one How do you justify emphasizing the short term delights endangering the long term goals A relationship based on wrongwhich according to me was lust in this case could never achieve a successful culmination I lost interest by the repetition of the same torture she allowed herself to go through How can you even expect someone else to stand for you when you are not doing it by yourself I am not saying anything written in this book is wrong because I very well belong to the same society I am just saying this book felt of an attempt to revenge And if it was a battle I am extremely sorry to say she lost it I tried to persuade myself that may be everyone is right in their own shoes but I couldn't do it The steps she took such a long time to take she could have taken before and changed her life This book utterly depressed me